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Lonely? You're Not Alone!
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NYC XYZ
2006-08-07 02:19:06 UTC
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Heh heh...it's funny how being lonely is actually a put-down! Don't
you just love being a statistic....

Good article. Touches on loneliness at several age levels and social
situations.

http://www.cnn.com/2006/HEALTH/07/31/lonely.nation.ap/index.html


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It seems ironic, even to those who are affected. The nation has never
been more populous, soon to reach the 300 million mark. And it has
never been more connected -- by phone, e-mail, instant message, text
message, and on and on.

Yet so many are alone in the crowd.

...

In June, an authoritative study in the American Sociological Review
found that the average American had only two close friends in whom they
would confide on important matters, down from an average of three in
1985. The number of people who said they had no such confidant soared
from 10 percent in 1985 to nearly 25 percent in 2004; an additional 19
percent said they had only one confidant -- often their spouse.

...

"You go on some profiles and they say they have 1,000 friends, and they
probably don't even know half of them," she said.

...

"All the students I work with have incredibly many pseudo-intimate
relationships online -- but without the kind of risk and vulnerability
that goes with sitting across a cafe booth from another person," Powell
said.

...

Seepersad said some of the students were predictably shy and withdrawn,
others on the surface seemed extroverted and socially skilled. He
encouraged them to share their feelings, analyze why they felt lonely
and work on their social skills.

"Lonely people may not be aware of things they're doing that perpetuate
the problem," he said. "It's something that can be helped."
Noon Cat Nick
2006-08-07 04:15:16 UTC
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"Lonely? You're Not Alone!"

How oxymoronic.
NYC XYZ
2006-08-07 14:10:59 UTC
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Post by Noon Cat Nick
"Lonely? You're Not Alone!"
How oxymoronic.
Ironic, moreover. I think it's irony, oftentimes, that just tears at
the heart.

Like this dude's poem..."suicide: cogito, ergo, BOOM!"
purpleveggie
2006-08-07 18:47:15 UTC
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Post by Noon Cat Nick
"Lonely? You're Not Alone!"
How oxymoronic.
im never alone....i have my invisible friend Eric to talk to.

say hello to everyone Eric.....

Eric?

you there?

dont be shy.............................................
cal
2006-08-07 19:03:52 UTC
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Post by purpleveggie
Post by Noon Cat Nick
"Lonely? You're Not Alone!"
How oxymoronic.
im never alone....i have my invisible friend Eric to talk to.
say hello to everyone Eric.....
Eric?
you there?
dont be shy.............................................
maybe eric needs a friendly hand to draw him out?
Alan Harding
2006-08-07 21:44:35 UTC
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Post by cal
Post by purpleveggie
Post by Noon Cat Nick
"Lonely? You're Not Alone!"
How oxymoronic.
im never alone....i have my invisible friend Eric to talk to.
say hello to everyone Eric.....
Eric?
you there?
dont be shy.............................................
maybe eric needs a friendly hand to draw him out?
You'll get arrested if you use your hand to draw that part of him out!
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purpleveggie
2006-08-08 08:12:13 UTC
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Post by cal
Post by purpleveggie
Post by Noon Cat Nick
"Lonely? You're Not Alone!"
How oxymoronic.
im never alone....i have my invisible friend Eric to talk to.
say hello to everyone Eric.....
Eric?
you there?
dont be shy.............................................
maybe eric needs a friendly hand to draw him out?
i think mine has gone away on holiday without telling me.

i miss him

i feel so alone

i hope he sends me a postcard

and brings me back a stick of rock

n***@lycos.com
2006-08-07 17:34:24 UTC
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Post by NYC XYZ
http://www.cnn.com/2006/HEALTH/07/31/lonely.nation.ap/index.html
It seems ironic, even to those who are affected. The nation has never
been more populous, soon to reach the 300 million mark. And it has
never been more connected -- by phone, e-mail, instant message, text
message, and on and on.
Yet so many are alone in the crowd.
While new technologies do allow us to communicate with more people,
using those technologies requires us to choose between paying attention
to the people around us and paying attention to the far-off people that
those gadgets put us in touch with.

Part of the problem comes from the disappearance of public spaces in
America. Town squares have turned into shopping centers. Plazas have
turned into parking lots. Parks have turned into jogging tracks. Even
shopping malls, which weren't really public spaces to begin with, are
now plastered with "no loitering" signs. This may make great
business sense, but it leaves us with nowhere to go except to work,
shop, or play with our computers.

Another part of the problem comes from the pressures marketers put on
us to purchase and use these technologies. You're not productive,
in-touch, or with-it, if you don't have a cell-phone or aren't
"networking" on a group site. You "have to" use the gadgets
that take you away from whoever is around you.

The result is a society where people walk around with cell-phones
attached to their heads, oblivious to the people next to them, and
people who have to resort to going online to meet people, because
there's not much anyplace else left where you can meet someone other
than coworkers, customers, or clerks.

Regards,
Phillip

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NYC XYZ
2006-08-07 17:49:36 UTC
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Post by n***@lycos.com
While new technologies do allow us to communicate with more people,
using those technologies requires us to choose between paying attention
to the people around us and paying attention to the far-off people that
those gadgets put us in touch with.
I was surprised the article, long as it was for a cnn.com article, only
briefly touched upon the technological nexus in all this, mentioning
only redbook or myspace.
Post by n***@lycos.com
Part of the problem comes from the disappearance of public spaces in
America. Town squares have turned into shopping centers. Plazas have
turned into parking lots. Parks have turned into jogging tracks. Even
shopping malls, which weren't really public spaces to begin with, are
now plastered with "no loitering" signs. This may make great
business sense, but it leaves us with nowhere to go except to work,
shop, or play with our computers.
I have to be an optimist on this and thus beg to differ.

"Public places" were, I suspect, vastly overrated. I think most people
went to there to watch lynchings and so forth.

In the 21st Century West, we have this wonderful thing called usenet
which allows us all to just carry on and whatnot without, um, fear of a
lynching. I think this is the greatest public place of all, frankly.
Post by n***@lycos.com
Another part of the problem comes from the pressures marketers put on
us to purchase and use these technologies. You're not productive,
in-touch, or with-it, if you don't have a cell-phone or aren't
"networking" on a group site. You "have to" use the gadgets
that take you away from whoever is around you.
Yes, there's certainly that -- but it's more an <<embaras de riches>>
(or however the frogs say it) than a dearth of options. The very fact
that all of us can talk right now as we please is a very good thing,
Madison Avenue notwithstanding.
Post by n***@lycos.com
The result is a society where people walk around with cell-phones
attached to their heads, oblivious to the people next to them, and
people who have to resort to going online to meet people, because
there's not much anyplace else left where you can meet someone other
than coworkers, customers, or clerks.
But morons will always be morons -- and, let's face it, but for the
Grace of God go we: that just as easily could have been us, under
different circumstances (and, having been a comic book-loving teenager
myself once, I suspect most of us have been air-heads at one time or
another).

The thing is, with all the increased technological advances, we can
cast a wider net than ever before, in terms of reaching out and
communicating, and those invariably most of the catch will be garbage,
the handful of good meaningful connections made will have redeemed the
effort expended.
Post by n***@lycos.com
Regards,
Phillip
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n***@sbcglobal.net
2006-08-07 17:57:56 UTC
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Join an Elks lodge, dude.
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